My philosophy on hypnosis is that problems, challenges, and dis-ease(s) give you an opportunity to experience your life at an entirely different level.
There have been many examples so of people who had severe health issues or injuries that literally "woke up" from their existing "trance reality" and took on a whole perspective or even a new life. Everyone has "things happen" to them from time to time, but it's HOW you respond that is the difference that makes a difference.
Bob and his wife have a new baby. Their newborn is sick and little fussy, so neither of them is getting very much sleep. In the morning, the alarm goes off, but Bob does not. So Bob gets up late, drives to work and gets griped at by his boss who threatens to fire him if he's late again. Now, Bob is in a bad mood as a result of having his job threatened. So to "improve" his life, he yells at his secretary over a simple clerical error, who breaks down crying and quits her job.
Bob has now lost the best secretary he's ever had and will either have to convincingly apologize and get her back or hire a new one. This cycle continues with each resulting person Bob comes into contact with getting mad or hurt until he gets home and has a fight with his wife. His wife then goes outside yells at her other kid. Her child does not understand what has just happened; so the teary-eyed kid goes around to the front yard and sees the family cat, and he kicks it.
The moral of this story is Bob should have gone outside as soon as he got up and kicked his family cat and saved everyone else the trouble. Or regardless of his lack of sleep, he could have gotten up on time or called in just to let them know he was running late or made some other choice.
We all have things that “just happen," but do they? Learning to manage your emotional states is one of the skills that ought to be taught in school or at least demonstrated by adults. Nothing just happens, there is always a stimulus. Look at it this way, you either are managing your emotional states, or your emotional states are controlling you.
Ok, back to Bob with a different scenario.
Bob gets up late and decides that he has a choice on how to handle this. He could call in and say “I'm going to be later than usual. Bob could take the entire day off, take his wife and children to the park or a movie (after a quick trip to the pediatrician) or something. He could decide that his impending “butt-chewing from the boss is warranted or he could decide something wholly different. Bob could determine that his boss yelling at him is a sign that Bob could do better at his job or needs a new one. And the volume that his boss is using to express his displeasure may a sign that Bob needs to turn up the dial and function at the level his Boss knows he's capable of functioning at when he isn't distracted.
You Always Have Choice
When encountering a potential problem and turning it into a signal that something needs to change is something we all have the power to do when we are "being present" to the world around us. And a day from now Bob is going to land the biggest contract client the company has ever had, and they will send him on all expense paid vacation as a “thank you for a job well done. But it won't help the cat.
There are also many ways to manage your emotional state starting with what my Mom told me when I was a kid. Count to 10 before you saying anything; this works really well, once you make it a habit.
When you take a deep breath and hold it while you are counting to 10, the carbon dioxide in your lungs will begin to build up, and your brain will send a signal that you need to let that breath out and take a deep breath of oxygen. What exactly happens with your brain chemistry is something called "diaphragmatic breathing" and it's beneficial for managing stress as well as many other physiological issues.
Another way, my favorite, is what I like to call “inoculation". We are all energetically connected to one another. So by choosing you to put yourself in a good mood before you go somewhere, you affect or infect (whichever you prefer) everyone around you with this "good mood."
Just as Bob infected everyone with his bad mood, the reverse is true as well. "Bad feelings" are extremely powerful emotions so you will have to practice a little so you can make you those "good moods" stronger. Think about the first time you made love with your partner or when you fell in love for the first time. There is no negative mood that can compete with love.
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