Anger? I was working with a client this morning who has lots of anger and rage issues. The exact change that I made for my client was this. Instead of him saying ” I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you. I’m having him say ” I forgive you” and that’s it. He’s saying “I forgive you” to his anger, his illnesses, his headaches, etc. and the response was more than interesting.
With most therapeutic modalities, the general concept is to identify the key issue and heal it, solve it , take it away, add to it or in some way shape or form make it different so that when the stimulus (as they frequently will) appears there is a different response and the client takes responsibility for all of the process.
The Concept of Ho’oponopono is completely different with respect to whom is actually responsible and it is you (healer, helper, etc) who is taking responsibility and asking for “forgiveness”. In this modality, the reason that the client has pain, anger, death, and disease, etc., is that YOU have those things, thoughts and behaviors inside of you and they are manifesting in the physical world as a reminder that you need to remove those things from your world. I completely get that, but not everyone does.
In the case of this particular client, he has been doing this Ho’oponopono prayer daily for who knows how long but with little relief to his anger and subsequent health issues. We have tried several things but the structure of the ASKING FOR FORGIVENESS was still the same. So with this new method, instead of him being in a “one-down” position and asking for forgiveness he is in a one-up position and is GIVING the forgiveness. For some people, it’s all about the perceived position and that can make the difference that makes a difference.
When I learn something new, I’m like a kid with a new Tonka truck. I want to see where these things work, where they don’t work and what happens when you do it backward or out of order. Yep, I’m that kid who took apart the television while my parents were sleeping.
From a linguistic standpoint, my position is that the structure of the Ho’oponopono prayer is grammatically ill-formed. I want to clarify that isn’t wrong, actually far from it. In the field of linguistics, there isn’t a RIGHT or WRONG, there is good and then there is better. The process as it is has worked, EFFECTIVELY as is for hundreds maybe thousands of years but that doesn’t mean that tweaking or customizing it for an individual won’t or cannot make it better. I’m about getting results. For those of you who just have to do stuff they way they did 50,000 years ago, just deal with it.
Give this a try and let me know about your results good or otherwise. I feel that we need to be open to modification of “age-old” processes so that we can modify them into a pattern that works without “modern” understanding of our language. Afterall, it wasn’t too long ago that “bad” meant bad as in something other than good, instead of “bad” meaning “good” as it does in today’s interpretation of our language.
Try it for a week and send me an email
Michael Harris, PhD