Coachable, are you really coachable? Think about it. Sound like a simple question doesn’t it? Are you coachable is a serious question that can have lots of parameters surrounding the answer. Everyone likes to think that they are very sensible, easy to get along with, and are good listeners. The reverse is often true unless you and your coach have the tools in the 5 steps of coaching before you begin to even discuss planning your goal and it’s route to achievement.
The 5 Steps of Coaching For Any Goal or Dream
Regardless of the type of style of coaching, you desired goal or project, without these components, your adventures of coaching are going to be spotty, at best. If one of these areas are missing you aren’t going to be very coachable. You won’t know what to do and neither will your coach.
MetaPrograms? What’s are those? MetaPrograms are literally how and what makes you… you. How you take in and process information. What is filtered, what is noticed or responded to is all based on your MetaPrograms. It’s like having an owner’s manual for you. With this information, all of your goals are going to be achievable, on time and under budget. If you wish to be coachable this is your first step.
We all have our individual learning styles that are based on the order we receive information. Some do visual first, then audio then kinesthetic, others use a different order. There are 6 total methods and each of us uses all of these methods in one context or another. Knowing which learning style to employ in which context cuts the number of repetitions required to learn since you are using the exact way that you learn best. Think public versus private school or Montisorri method.
What’s your motivation direction? Is it towards pleasure or away from pain or consequences? Most people would like to think that they are pleasure or reward motivated, but generally, the reverse is true. If you have ever had a goal or project and “something happened”, it was probably an unnoticed move away from consequence that wasn’t factored into your goal plan.
What is your working style? Are you an Independent worker? (most people think they are but aren’t) Are you a Proximity Worker? (you do your own work but with lateral or supervisory monitoring) are you a Cooperative Worker? (work with a team of equally ranked people) Your working style can be the make-or-break of many goals and projects. The Peter Principle is a prime example of someone being promoted out their working style and into another where the person has no level of experience or expertise and they are unwittingly set up to fail.
A well-formed outcome is a series of questions that define your goal(s). When to do what and how. For any person to be coachable this has to be a priority
1. What do you want? Sounds simple. But most people don’t really know what they want. They know what they don’t want. They may also know what they want in terms of a short-term goal but how does it fit into their life plan?
Many people want a million dollars. Do you know what happens when you get it? What will you do with that money? A wholes series of new challenges appear and if you need to be prepared for them. What if you just wanted to be happy and you thought if you had a million dollars would make that happen.
2. When do you want this? Also simple. Lets’ say you want your business to take off and do really well and you want this to happen immediately, right? Great plan. Do you only want this Monday through Friday? What about on weekends or holidays when you are supposed to be hanging with your family? Thinking about when you want your goal isn’t just about when you want this, it’s also knowing went do you not want it.
3. How will you know when have attained this goal? This is probably one of the most important steps. knowing or having evidence that you’ve achieved your goal or dream, frequently is a forgotten step in the formula. Too many people focus on one aspect of their goal (Think George Baily, from It’s a Wonderful Life) Life goals need to be well-rounded and holistic; they compliment your life, not replace it.
4. What’s stopping you from having this now? This question will give you the details or resources that are missing or in other contexts. It will also give your coach direction in how to help get you organized and begin adding in these missing resources.
Welcome to the beginning. I know I should say the end, but it’s not. If you have ever thought about coaching these are the steps that need to be made before any goal or project can begin. Please re-read the steps and make sure you have all of the above tools ready before you begin your next project, goal or spend money on a coach.
It will make your life and your coaches’ much easier. You will save money and you may have some fun along the way.
This format will make ANY GOAL OR PROJECT possible.