Disassociation

Disassociation

This is a process that forms the basis for many of the hypnotic phenomena. It is the dissociation from the conscious and unconscious minds, suspending the logical, rational and intellectualized thought processes. This can lead to things such as positive and negative hallucinations; it’s a good stepping stone.
 
Today’s trance has been ongoing since last night. It came on so fast I didn’t notice it until I got up this morning and I was still disassociated from my feelings. I literally couldn’t feel my body with the exception of being able to walk, talk, breathe, etc.
 
For me, the easiest way to disassociate is anger… I’ve had a lot of practice doing that one. It’s easy to maintain with minimal consequences or so I think while in that emotional state. The reality is that it is very energy-absorbing state kind of like a wildfire that consumes everything in its wake.
 
The best way for me to end that trance is to go on a long drive and just allow the hypnotic state to conclude. Other methods are sex or masturbation, journaling, talking to a sympathetic ear, a nap and sometimes a meal which usually leads to a nap, lol.
 
While driving today I had an opportunity to chunk down some interesting aspects of the emotional state so I could put them into some type of order that people may be able to use.
 
Dissociation isn’t just about not feeling your emotions. people use disassociation both positively and negatively. it’s the negative manifestation that usually gets people into my office for treatment.
People are most familiar with emotional and physical disassociation. On the positive side, for soldiers, athletes, certain emergency situations, disassociation is a really great way of setting your feeling and/physical sensations aside for a period of time. It could save your life, someone else’s life or allow you to perform at the highest level of competition(s).
 
Being in a disassociated state while trying to make love, talk to your partner or boss, solving a problem with your child, could become a nightmare if you cannot be compassionate or empathize with whom you are interacting.
Our Corporate Society likes it very much is you cannot feel your emotions… It makes you a better robot that is more productive. It’s why many people leave the corporate environment or are forced to because of burnout, illness or disease because humans were designed to feel their emotions and feel the emotions of others. And it is those pesky emotions that cause many to seek counseling or hypnotherapy when the modern medicine’s solution of “throwing drugs at you until you shut up”; doesn’t work anymore.
 
Disassociation isn’t limited to only our emotions or physical sensations. We can also visually disassociate. I have had dozens of people in my office, over the years, that when you ask “at what age did you begin to wear glasses?” The answer frequently coincides with a trauma during their childhood. Not always, but frequently.
 
There are documented example of sudden blindness, sudden deafness and it’s also worth mentioning, that many of our ‘autoimmune disorders’ have no cause or cure according to medical science. So it must be in their heads, right? Exactly. But not in a made-up version but in a trauma version. Medical science can’t treat it with drugs so they send you home as a failure to their treatments.
 
So if we can manifest these “sudden” ailments it makes sense that we can “suddenly” manifest a cure for them with the same methodology that created the problem in the first place; state dependent learning. Or so people like me believe.
Part of the problem is we aren’t allowed to feel our feeling. In our society, we are only allowed to feel our emotions for “X” period of time and then, we have to stop, suck it up or my favorite… someone else tells you how you are feeling instead of validating what you are actually feeling. Sometimes it’s well-intentioned sometimes it’s not so well-intentioned but the result is the same. The person is conditioned to switch off and do something else.
 

Here are two methods of working with disassociation (yes, there are lots more):

1. Lengthen the movie (also my favorite addiction cure)

Bob is a middle-aged guy, married, 2.5 children and a dog. Bod grew up with a parent who drank a lot and used to beat the hell out of his mother. Bob learned that if he provoked his drunk parent, that parent would beat him instead. Bob learned that he could switch off his body so no matter how hard his parent beat him it didn’t hurt.
Now Bob is an adult who has difficulty feeling empathy and compassion for his teenage daughter who just went through her first teenage romance and breaks up His wife think he’s a cold fish and just doesn’t care, as does his teenager.
The solution for bob is lengthening his movie. So instead of him seeing teenage in pain and him switching off his emotions and telling her to “get over it”, he has a new method.
Bod went through an elongated movie of him. He imagined continuing to do this disassociation until it costs him his marriage, his relationship with his children and his job. Now, a homeless Bob starts to drink and ultimately begins to die of alcoholism. The last scene of the movie, Bob is lying in the gutter about to gasp his last breath when a street dog comes by and pees on him.
 
Yes, very graphic, but after Bob runs through this movie faster and faster, it becomes automatic. So he has changed the stimulus from disassociation to re-association. This one method and it works.
 

2. The Barking Dog

If you have a dog that barks the best way to stop them is through training the dog to bark on command. Once the dog can bark on a signal, you just stop giving the signal and the dog can’t bark until the signal is given.

Humans can also be conditioned (think the Army) to respond to a signal everytime that signal is given. Anchoring the signal to disassociate, in a given context, and testing it to make sure its a good anchor and then never firing that anchor again is a solution.

3. Collapsed Anchors

Ever hear of the Pavlov’s dog story? Most people have heard half of it. You know the guy rings a bell, the dog salivates, end of the story. But that isn’t the whole story. The whole story is after Pavlov did the bell thing, he tried it again with a flute. Guess what? it worked perfectly.

Then Pavlov tried to alternate the two associations, the bell, and the flute, and everything stopped working. Why? Because those two associations to the same response were in conflict and it collapsed the response. Create two distinct associations to the same behavior and fire of both at the same time and the behavior won’t be able to work anymore. Yes, it can be that simple. (I’ll post a link to anchoring)

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