Mapping Your Best Strategies
Mapping your best strategies from a context that really works for you into another context that doesn’t is going to be your best bet for a quick and lasting change. I was having a conversation with a coaching client recently, and we were talking about her desire to FINALLY get a handle of her exercise and nutritional program.
I asked her what her best strategy was? She replied that her financial strategy was working well and that she had 5 years and 8 months until she no longer needs to work because of FEAR. This isn’t a negative statement we all at the base of our existence are motivated by fear or love. In this context, fear works better for her. I’m happy she gave me permission to share this with you.
Her Financial Strategy
Without giving out any numbers, this client has accumulated enough money to retire. Her motivation to continue working is about healthcare and she won’t reach Medicare status for 5 years and 8 months.
So what’s her strategy? It’s pretty simple. She automatically has a certain percentage of her gross income deducted from her bi-weekly paychecks and put into a savings account. There are actually two, short-term and long-term. Once per year, she transfers a prescribed amount into her investment account for her money guy to invest for her. It’ worth mentioning that she didn’t start there. She began as everyone does with a short-term savings account and built from there. Her whole strategy is built on several pillars. All are necessary to true financial independence.
Her Exercise and Nutritional Strategy
Her exercise and nutritional strategies are completely different. There are based on an expectation that at some point she is going to “LEARN TO LOVE” exercise and eating sensibly. See a problem here? If yes, great. If no, keep reading.
Many people have a presupposition that if you do something long enough you are going to LOVE IT. That’s one way to look at things. Not good or bad, just one way. What is wrong with this strategy is that it is formed completely opposite, from her most successful strategy.
Too many people get confused about “move away from” and “move towards” motivation strategies. It isn’t rocket science and truly if you crank the heat up enough we all move away from pain.
Neither method is good or bad and can create the type of world you desire. And I’ll tell you about a combination of strategies that if you examine it, you’ll discover you’re already using it.
Move Towards Motivation
This would be the “preferred” method for most people. It sounds good. I’m moving towards what I want. Who wouldn’t want to do that? The problem here is that what people would choose versus how their neurology is wired are two vastly different things.
Think about how you were raised? Were you to told to GO FOR IT? Or were you told to be careful, watch out for this and don’t EVER do that… you might get hurt.
If you were in the 1-3% of humans who were raised by people who told you to “go for it” at all times, I salute you.
For the rest of us, there is a small percentage of humans who sort for what they want ABOVE what they may be afraid of or moving away from. This is a good strategy, I use it frequently but I don’t use it at all times.
Move Away-From Motivation
Sounds funny but this is the strategy most people avoid using, ironic isn’t it? Moving away from the pain or possible consequences is actually a good thing. If you were completely fearless you wouldn’t mind so much when the bus or taxi runs over you. Away-from strategies are how we were trained. It’s how advertising works and generally how we were raised by parents, clergy and, teachers.
So if you have a robust move away-from strategy, great. So let’s use it to get what we want by moving away from the opposite of what we want. Kind of like falling over backward into what you want.
The Carrot And The Stick (Propulsion System)
Mapping Your Best Strategies is easy if you do this. This is a combination of both the above move towards and away-from strategies. This is my preferred method of creating something AND tuning up less-than-stellar strategies of my own and my clients. It will satisfy your desire to move towards what you want while paying attention to what consequence you are attempting to avoid.
Back To My Client
My suggestion to my client was for her to get a piece of paper and start mapping your best strategy. By writing down all of the things she does and is automated processes in her financial strategy. On the same piece of paper, she is write down all of the things she does in her exercise and nutritional strategy to see where the overlaps are.
It may take time to get these into place, like her financial system, but it’s quickly achievable. She has a financial adviser, she has a trainer. Most of the pieces are in place but she may not be aware of them.
The primary issue I see here is her expectation that, at some point, she is going to love doing these things. Exercising and eating right may not ever be something she loves. She could love the results, she receives or enjoying the simplicity of the automation that works so well in her financial strategy. Lifelong health and reduced health costs as a result of her investment is always a good investment. I will get back with her and find out what she has discovered over the weekend.
Try This For Yourself
What is the issue? Is it working out, education or financial? Or something else? Decide which patterns need repair and repair them today or as soon as possible. Fixing those ill-formed strategies is a good idea because it can radically improve your life. Could be it’s wooing your spouse? Or watching less television. Maybe you’ve been putting off that advanced degree that would guarantee your next promotion?
Get a piece of paper and write down what makes your best strategy work. Contrast that with something you’ve always wanted to do or have been putting off. Compare the two strategies and you’ll find you’re closer to success than you imagined. It just needs a little tweaking. Mapping Your Best Strategy is going to be the keys to your new kingdom.
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