Overcome Fear and Get Your Life Back
Everyone at one time or another have been afraid, uncertain or just plain fearful. It’s part of the human condition that goes back to when we were living in the wild and pretty much everything out there wanted to eat us.
Now that we live in a civilized society, we really don’t have to worry much about the sabertoothed tigers stalking us after dark, but the media, and well-intended parents, clergy and of course, or friends and family can’t resist telling you about every single possible thing that can go wrong and what the consequences of that might be. So over a period of time, it’s possible to become conditioned to all the possible dangers while ignoring the possibilities fo the good.
When You’re Up to Your Ass in Alligators, Stop Wearing Pork Chop Cologne.
There was this guy I knew, who was very afraid of water, but absolutely loved to fish. He would fish on lakes, streams, go to the ocean as long as there were fish to catch he was there. It seems strange to me that he was so afraid of the water. He had no childhood “almost drowning” stories he was just uncomfortable around water.
One day he decided that he was going to get over his fear of the water, so he took swimming lessons, learned how to dog paddle and learned how to float but he still wouldn’t put his face into the water. Eventually, he became confident enough in his new swimming abilities that he did something he always wanted to do; he bought a boat.
Boats are cool, they are fast AND… they can get you right to the place where the fish are biting. So, he buys a boat and takes it to the lake. While he is out there, he hooks A HUGE FISH. He fights with the fish for a while and gets him right up to the boat and while he is trying to lift him into the boat… he falls into the water.
He thinks “no problem I know how to dog paddle and float” but in the pool; he could see and touch the bottom. Not so, in this situation. He couldn’t feel the bottom or see it, all he could see was his new boat gently gliding away… he forgot to turn off the trolling motor and the boat was moving much faster than he could “dog paddle”. Now he was starting to panic and struggle and more importantly HE WAS BEGINNING TO SINK!!!
The more he panicked and the harder he struggled the more he sank. So he began to tire and then he just stopped… expecting to feel the water just take him all the way down to the bottom.
Then a funny thing happened. He floated. It surprised him and he started to sink again, so he stopped, and he floated again. Well, it didn’t take too many examples of this for him to realize that when he was floating he was relaxed and when he was struggling he was tense. So decided to relax and dog paddle and relax again when he got tired or scared. Eventually, he made it to the shore, retrieved his boat and now he fishes whenever and wherever he wants without any fear of the water.
What is it in your life that is scaring you or challenging you? Perhaps you need to relax and float on top of what you fear. Maybe you need some training or schooling. Maybe you need a mentor who can teach you how to navigate the waters and teach you how to paddle when you need to and rest when you’re tired.
Lastly, remember it’s the bamboo tree that survives the hurricane. The more you are able to relax and breathe, the abler you are going to stay in the present and make informed, educated responses instead of reacting.