That may sound like the stupidest thing you’ve ever heard… but that is the exact statement I heard form a client the other day. She showed me this holiday wreath that she bought and what can I say… it was hideous. With sticks for the wreath and genuine simulated holly, complete with the stickies on the leaves so you could snag your favorite sweater or tie as you walk past it.
Dallas Consulting Hypnotist, Michael Harris, PhD, says “Halloween is almost here… time to take your mask off!” So did you know that the second busiest retail event other than Christmas is Halloween? What’s up with that? I think that it it’s because that Halloween is the time of year that people act more like themselves than any other time of the year.
So this year (and every year) I’m recommending that everyone take off the mask that they wear all year and cut loose and have some fun. This year instead of just using a date on the calendar as an excuse to be yourself this time take your mask off and be yourself from now on.
Throughout history, there have always been festivals and ceremonies, in which, people wear masks to call in the spirits or ward off the spirits or to portray an aspect of the human culture than cannot be mentioned openly.
In our modern times and particularly in this country you can say just about anything about anyone without too much fear of beheading. So the need for masks has diminished as our culture has modernized. But we still wear masks you just can’t see them.
In primitive cultures, there are tremendous social structures for “what-you-see-is-what-you-get”. Those cultures exist and are dependant of each member of the tribe knowing and trusting the other members of the tribe. In our modern culture, the emphasis is more about presenting a face that doesn’t reveal any information. The face you show at work is not the face that you show to your spousal unit and there is a completely different face with your children. I think that this sends the wrong message. The message it sends out is “nothing you say can be trusted”. And our news reports and high divorce rates shows that this is pervasive. Perhaps, we need to consider dropping the pseudo-masks that we have adopted and show ourselves and others who we really are in all our flawed, non-perfect glory.
Here are 3 things you can do to help get that mask off:
1. Practice telling people HOW YOU REALLY FEEL, the bad and the good.
When someone asks how you are feeling do the “Toastmaster’s sandwich” when you answer the question, this will let you practice letting people know your true feelings. The process is simple. Say one good thing about how you feel. If there is something bothering you say that next and finish with the best thing that is currently going on in your life.
2. If someone is having a bad day, listen instead of talking. Frequently the best conversationalists are the ones who listen best. People need the time and QUIET to express themselves, some take longer than others, give them all the time they need.
here’s a hint… sometimes people are talking to you so they can hear themselves so quit flapping your jaws that will interrupt their thought processes just ZIP IT, unless they specifically ask you to respond.
3. Do something out of your comfort zone. If you seldom dress up, DRESS UP and go out somewhere. If you are used to a specific style of clothing, break the mold and wear something out of character and take it out on the town. You will be surprised how people take non-verbal cues from you on how to respond to you and your masks.
My final thought is about my last vacation I took in Mexico. I usually go out one night be during the trip so I can mingle the local “flora and fauna”. I was at Senor Frog’s; if you’ve been there you know it’s pretty wild. There was a guy walking around selling “poppers”, which are tequila and Fresca shots (and yes they still sell Fresca at Target).
Anyway, guys has a t-shirt on that says, “you’re in a different country and no one knows you” and he was selling shots like they were free, why? Because everyone had their mask off… and they had the freedom to be who they are. Next time you’re thinking you can’t do something because it too silly, too out-of-character or TOO SOMETHING… get your t-shirt on that says MY MASK IS OFF… I CAN DO WHATEVER I WANT…
If you need help getting your mask off… or you just want to ask a few additional questions about how hypnosis can improve you life… email me at [email protected] or call 214-702-3774 for a 15 min. complimentary consulting session