The 3-Fold Process

The 3-Fold Process

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Okay. Hi everybody and welcome. Today I thought it would talk about the three-fold process.  I was talking within my men’s group last night about a Tantra process which is called the 3-fold process.

It has internal work.

And it has a writing component.

Finally, it also has an integration component.

I’ve heard it before but I think that I just heard it differently this time, and I think I’m just going to be adding this process to my coaching work, because it just, it’s so amazing to me that I think that it’s worthwhile for people to do as part of their integration and healing.

So, let’s just talk about you know the different components of that.

Step 1 Internal Work

The first component is the meditation or the internal work process now in the Tantra community they’re specifically talking about physical touch or self-pleasure, or OMing. But I don’t want to get too lost in the story about that because not everybody is interested in orgasmic meditation.

So, when I say meditation, think in terms of you could you can sit and do meditation you can go walk, or you could do Chi Kung, or you could do Yin style yoga.

One of the things about meditation is any repetitive activity is going to entrain the conscious mind and give the unconscious mind an opportunity to really do some interesting stuff.

Now you’re home with kids or you’ve got grandkids, you might want to consider meditation can be coloring or puzzles, or even gardening. It can be a way to slow the kids down and slow you down, and just really give you an opportunity to be.

Each one of these processes that I’m talking about is like 10-15 minutes in duration. What I’m really interested in is that we have this opportunity; if you want to call it that. To create a different way of being in we’ve all been at home and, and we’ve been trying to figure out what it is you know that we’re going to be doing next. And what it is that we’re going to be taking with us into this new world so step one is going to be, meditation, and after that 15 minute or 10 minute period, then you move on to this step two.

Step 2 Writing Part A

Step two is going to be writing. And for some people writing is really hard, you know, they don’t want anybody to know what they’re thinking or feeling. Um, so, you might want to consider, like journaling on something like LiveJournal, you can set all of the permissions to zero, you can have ultimate privacy.

But it gives you an opportunity to write. Now if you’re a little more comfortable with writing. I think that when I recommend to my clients that they write that they physically write on a piece of paper and there and there’s a little bit to this to spend 10 minutes, you know, just doing freeform what it is you’re experiencing how you’re feeling what you were thinking about while you’re gardening, or meditating, or doing intimate touch with your partner whatever it is that you may be doing.

Step 2 Part B

The second part of this writing process is that you contact some trusted friends or your partner or whatever. And you actually read it aloud.

Now, if your journal is about your partner, you might want to hold off, reading it to them, just go somewhere and read it aloud yourself, and once it’s been read and once you said the words. I want you to take that journal entry and tear it out. Or, if you’re doing electronically, delete it.

The whole process is about getting those words out of here, and getting them on a page where you can see them and feel them and have that experience, and there’s a couple of different processes that you can work with this, this first one, which is called a fear inventory is based on Shadow Work you know we all have, we have you know our face right here that we want to show everybody, aren’t we, you know, aren’t we great people. And then we also have our shadow selves where we’re angry or bitter or greedy or. We are something other than, you know, loving light. Okay, so this fear inventory has actually a very specific format. And what you do is you write down I resent blank, you know, maybe you resent staying home.

Maybe you resent your kids. Maybe you resent your dog or maybe you resent the gasoline prices going down because it’s affecting your stock. Well, whatever it is that you resent, and then you set a timer or start a timer for about 10 minutes and you write down in this format. Because I fear I, and I’ll write that in the comments so that you can you can do it. And it’s important that you keep the fear statement about you. It’s not about what somebody else is doing you know maybe it is what they’re doing, but it’s about what your personal fear is not what you think their fear is. Okay, not everybody wants to do a lot of like deep heavy. Shadow Work and stuff so one of the things that you might want to consider is in addition to this, you can also do a gratitude journal. And you can write down all of the things that you’re grateful for How about your life today. How about you have an opportunity to spend time with your family or your partner or your dog, and that you don’t normally because you’re at work. The other types of writing our gratitude journal What are you grateful for, you know, and spend about 10 minutes writing all of that down, or an abundance, a journal. I personally did an abundance thing because we have a tendency to, you know, look around you know what’s happening in our world and we don’t always appreciate what we already have.

And, I mean, when was the last time that you were at the grocery store and you saw somebody went Hey, you’re breathing up all my air. No, there’s an abundance of air there’s an abundance of life there’s an abundance of money actually on the in this, you know, in, in this particular planet is that you can make as much money as you want. And there’s plenty for everybody. Then we’ll move to the third segment.

Step 3 Movement

And this third segment is about movement, and you know if you watch any of my videos and stuff you’ll know that I do yoga and I do you know all this other stuff. But interestingly enough movement for me is kind of interesting if there’s a fixed format. I did martial arts you know when there are katas which are performed, you know, an exact manner, or, you know, if you go take down dance lessons you can learn how to Foxtrot because there’s a format.

But when it comes to things like freeform movement like freeform dance. That’s hard for me, and there is actually a Facebook group that I found called body groove, and go check that out. It’s called body groove I’ll put it in the comments, and this lady, really gives you an opportunity to learn how to dance. And one of the things I really like about what she has to say is if you don’t feel stupid, while you’re doing her dance moves, you’re not doing it right.

Another thing that you can do for movement is you can go for a walk. Or you can do Tai Chi, or you could do yoga, or you could do whatever it is that you’re doing that moves your body in this process this 3-fold process.

Summing Up

I really want you to do all three, I want you to do your internal work or your meditation. I want you to do your writing, and contact somebody, and then get out there and move your body around and get all that stuff out of your system. And I’m going to be doing this for a while, you, you can always go to my hundred days of page, and I’m going to actually start 100 days program where I’m doing this 3-fold process, you know, no guarantees that it’ll be perfect because that’s not the goal.

The goal is to really take a look at all of the things that we’re having an opportunity to learn and have an opportunity to create. And in the meantime, you know, let’s go, let go of the fears and start really creating a world that we want to live in.

So thanks for watching please like and share. If you have an opportunity.

I’ll talk to you soon.